All young people especially during their teenage years go through periods of insecurity. Most of us carry a lot of these issues with us into our adult years affecting our relationships and even our parenting. Through media and our circle of friends it’s easy to become obsessed with our body image often creating unrealistic expectations for ourselves and others.
This can lead to taking shorts cuts (of which there are none in life) and either avoiding food, over exercising or taking extreme measures, which can potentially lead to serious illnesses such as bulimia and anorexia.
Having been a model for 21 years there is absolutely nothing I haven’t seen. During my time in Paris I witnessed horrific things going on between agencies and their models especially if they were big earners. Greed and exploitation play a big part in this. I have witnessed girls lose their lives in a bid to be a model and live their dream. These dreams can often turn to nightmares. Gisele once said that she is predisposed genetically to being a model. She has a naturally thin body type. If you are not she said you shouldn’t be doing the job as it will only make you miserable. She caused a lot of controversy with this statement but I agree with her because it’s not right to go to work miserable and have to starve yourself and suffer to do any job.
However I also had many friends at home struggling with eating disorders who were not in my industry but had a strong desire to be thin as thin=beautiful in most young peoples eyes. We are sold this image constantly and consistently even our subconscious is constantly absorbing images from the media which affects are way of thinking.
We should be educating our children from Pre School in an age appropriate manner about health and wellbeing. Encouraging them to exercise, eat fresh food and have fun. We need to start rearing our children with confidence. If there is a mum at home constantly dieting and talking about her weight in a negative fashion that will be overheard by her children and have an impact on their relationship with food.They could then take that opinion to school and share it with friends, so everyone needs to take responsibility. I have often heard very young kids talk about their mum having a different dinner from them or mums not eating as she’s on a diet.
We need to instill good habits early on.
No ones body is the same and no one can look exactly like someone else but by living healthy and eating well you can be the best you that there is. Living healthy will also increase your confidence and help you to feel better.
I am very lucky and have always been naturally thin. I never had to work at it for the first 12 -15 years of my career but I have lived through incredibly insecure times and when work dipped and I felt sad I used all sorts of escapisms including over eating, diet pills, no food and excessive exercise I WAS COMPLETELY MISERABLE THROUGHOUT THESE TIMES!!!! All I did when I began modeling was sit back stage and smoke and drink coffee (because I was supercool of course). Young people need to understand that happiness and contentment come from pursuing your life’s passion’s and treating both yourself and your body well because as I always say:
“WHAT YOU FEED YOURSELF AND HOW YOU TREAT YOURSELF WILL DIRECTLY REFLECT HOW YOU LOOK AND FEEL”
At 36 I now realise that keeping fit and healthy is hard work and I work hard at it now. Yes its a pain in the ass sometimes but when I go the extra mile, exercise and eat right my mental health improves which in turn improves quality of life both for me and those I love.
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