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Here are some books to consider

Book List with focus on anxiety/worry:

  1. The Wooden Dragon – Joan Aiken
  2. No Matter What – Debi Gilori
  3. Billy Monster’s Daymare – Alan Durant
  4. The Huge Bag of Worries – Virginia Ironside
  5. Little Mouse’s Big Book of Fears – Emily Gravett
  6. A Niflenoo called Never Mind – Margot Sunderland
  7. My Many Coloured Days – Dr Seuss

 

Books for “Feelings”
1. How are you Peeling – Sexton & Freymann
2. Alexander and the terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day – Judith Viorst
3. Glad Monster, Sad Monster – Ed Emberley
4. My Many Coloured Days – Dr Seuss
5. The way I feel – Janan Cain

Books for Bullying

  1. The Bully Blockers Club – Teresa Bateman
  2. Billy Bully – by Ana Galan Alvaro Galan
  3. Bye Bye Big Bad Bully-Bug – by Ed Emberley
  4. Stop Picking on me – by Pat Thomas Lesley Harker
  5. Bootsie Barker Bites – by Barbara Bottner
  6. Say Something – by Peggy Moss
  7. King of the Playground – by Phyllis Reynolds

I’m really looking forward to attending this course with Joanna Fortune. Having worked with Joanna for over a year now her ability to inspire and encourage parents (including me!) in the most positive way is very unique. If anyone would like to join us on Saturday just get in touch!!

1 Day Parenting Course this Saturday 6th July, limited places remain. This Course will be run by Joanna Fortune who is a Clinical Psychotherapist with more than 12 years experience working with children, adolescents and parents. She is a specialist in early attachment and the parent-child relationship and runs the Solamh Parent Child Relationship Clinic in Dublin and is a regular contributor in the media on these issues. You can read more about Joanna on www.joannafortune.com or www.solamh.com

This course is about accessing what is working and building on that and thinking about “why” and what motivates are approach and where that might come from. This 1 Day course will cover the early emotional and psychological development of children and provide participants with the insights to interpret and understand the behaviours of their children as well as the practical skills to respond and resolve these at home.

 This course will cover:

*Child Development (general over view)

*Understanding and Reading Children’s Behaviour

*How to (practically) develop self-esteem and tackle bullying

*Managing Transitions

*Effective Discipline

*Quality versus Quantity Time with children

*The Power of Play

This is about making small changes to see big differences, it is about less tears and more laughs!

The next Parenting 1 day Course is Saturday 6th July 2013 in the Avila Centre Donnybrook, Dublin 4. The cost for the day is €130 per person or €220 for a couple and this is inclusive of lunch/refreshments and detailed handouts. Places are strictly limited and assigned on a first come first served basis so advance booking is recommended. Contact us on 01-6976568 or email info@solamh.com to book your place or make an enquiry.

DAILY MAIL CRECHE SCANDAL

Watching primetime made me feel sick to my stomach and I have often looked at James since he was born wondering how anyone could hurt kids, as they are so innocent and defenseless. Parenting is a cycle of guilt and as a single mother I always worry if I’m doing my best. But in reality we have to stand back and realize that as parents we are all doing our best. Each one of us has a different type of situation to cope with on a daily basis and as a single mother I rely on crèche five days a week.

I am deeply passionate about the formative years and early childhood learning and development, which is why I began my 0 To Toddler show. My crèche ‘The Toddler Inn’ came with good recommendation from someone I trust. I was completely clueless in the beginning and didn’t even know what questions to ask. I am lucky that I work closely with my crèche and the manager even toured the country with me last year on my show. James is happy and runs into crèche every day and some days doesn’t even want to come home. When I dropped him off this morning my heart went out to the girls who care for them as I know how much they care about the kids and we need to be careful that we don’t tar everyone with the same brush. We have good and bad teachers, good and bad doctors, good and bad restaurants. Staff will behave the way management allow and from what I saw on primetime last night I find it incomprehensible that no one from management witnessed this kind of behavior as it seemed to be ongoing.

We need to be careful about crèches popping up all over the country because we’re in the middle of a baby boom and people see it as a quick way of making money. Joanna Fortune from Solamh made a great point when she tweeted  “There should be aptitude testing for suitability to work in the Childcare industry, if you cannot show love & care to a child, wages irrelevant” I couldn’t agree more. Just because you want the job doesn’t mean you’re suitable. These girls last night were heartless, disinterested and dangerous to have around kids. There are lessons here for all of us. As parents we need to ask more questions, have access to government inspections and be able to drop in whenever we like to check on our kids. If your crèche does not allow drop in or does not answer your questions and concerns with urgency and priority it is a warning sign. The crèches in question have failed numerous inspections yet were still receiving state funding so in my opinion its rotten from the top down. We need to stand up for our kids and ourselves but be careful as parents we don’t point the finger at each other. I like many others have to work and put my child in a crèche and as a mum I do the best job I can do every day. A similar programme was aired about the abuse and neglect in old peoples homes last year. Maybe we need to look closer to home as how we treat our children and an old person says an awful lot about the society we live in.

“I” love Christmas. I love the magic and bribery Santa brings.  As I don’t like doing things by halves, I have a giant Santa on our wall who watches everything especially dinners and bedtime or clean up time or whinging.. Well you get the picture. I took James to see Santa at Hamley’s and it was a very special day. We did lunch with Santa and the kids got to colour, have lunch and spend quality time with the man himself. My cool as a cucumber son just said Hiya as if he was someone he saw every day. He asked him for nion ting DVD (The Lion King), Books and a digsaw (jigsaw) Luckily I was on hand to translate. Also out in Hamleys Claphandies are doing 30 minute sessions. Here the kids can sing carols, create little Christmas trees and have some fun! It’s a great idea if you’re standing in the queue and the little ones are getting impatient. Let one adult go to claphandies and the other stays in line. This year at Hamleys they’ve really thought of everything.

Christmas for me is a time to be grateful for the year we’ve had and look forward to a new year with new beginnings. I have so many plans for the New Year. One of them is getting fit. I’m also going to enroll James back into Rugby Tots as he just loves it and spends all week talking about it and then cries when we leave. It’s great exercise for him. He spends most of the time running in circles announcing to me that he’s the winner! (There is no one else competing against in these particular races but hey who am I to burst his winner bubble)

I would like to thank everyone who has supported me this year. To all of you, who read this column and take the time to get in touch. Your kind words and support mean a lot. Finally thanks to my family without whose support and help with James I would not be able to work and build my life again. I had amazing team on my shows this year so thanks to all of you. Hard work and perseverance pays off. Stay healthy, happy and positive and believe in miracles. Miracles are the ordinary things that extraordinary people do for you every day. 2013 here we come!!!

FOR MUM

I love this Juicy Couture Beau watch €249.00 www.arnotts.ie

FOR BABY
Babies love these soft Alphabet Cubes from Mothercare €16.20

This Trike is amazing for kids with special needs. It can be adjusted to grow with your child by raising the seat post and handlebar to suit. The Musketeer comes with a freewheel as standard allowing your child to be able to coast without the pedals going around if you wish to use a parent handle. It is possible too change to a fixed wheel so that when the Trike goes forward or backward the pedals will go around with the Trike. Can be useful for children with lack of power in their legs as the forward motion helps keep their feet going around. Prices depend on adaptations required but start from €295 Age 2-6 yr Available from Adam and Friends

I love this fluffy blue instaria jumper €34 Cath Kidston have a great range of scarves, hats and jumpers that are warm, fun and very festive but also can be worn well into the new year!

 

ASK ALISON

HI Alison,

I was at one of your shows and you were talking about the importance of communicating. I’m quite bad at talking. Have you any tips for helping me express myself better?
Thanks, Lisa. Galway

Hi Lisa,

I’m always saying that words are not the only way to communicate. You can express yourself in so many different creative ways. Arts and crafts are always good. I recently just did a four part parenting series for my website with Joanna Fortune and she discusses some of the techniques she uses. My favourite is “The balloon Technique” which shows you how to express emotion and this could be a great one for you. You write your feelings/problems down. Then you roll the piece of paper up and put it into the balloon. You then release the balloon and let your problems fly off with it. The video on my website will explain this better. I hope it helps!

THIS FORTNIGHT WE ARE:

Doing things to make us feel good READING Caroline Grace Cassidy’s new novel ‘When Love Takes Over’ this Christmas €9.99 This is a feel good, funny, laugh out loud book from all good bookstores LISTENING to Christmas FM we love singing along to all the songs in the car and the best part is the proceeds go to the ISPCC. EXERCISING to balance the guilt of eating and drinking REMEMBERING those loved ones not with us and thinking of all the happy memories we have with them.

“I” love Christmas. I love the magic and bribery Santa brings.  As I don’t like doing things by halves, I have a giant Santa on our wall who watches everything especially dinners and bedtime or clean up time or whinging.. Well you get the picture. I took James to see Santa at Hamley’s and it was a very special day. We did lunch with Santa and the kids got to colour, have lunch and spend quality time with the man himself. My cool as a cucumber son just said Hiya as if he was someone he saw every day. He asked him for nion ting DVD (The Lion King), Books and a digsaw (jigsaw) Luckily I was on hand to translate. Also out in Hamleys Claphandies are doing 30 minute sessions. Here the kids can sing carols, create little Christmas trees and have some fun! It’s a great idea if you’re standing in the queue and the little ones are getting impatient. Let one adult go to claphandies and the other stays in line. This year at Hamleys they’ve really thought of everything.

Christmas for me is a time to be grateful for the year we’ve had and look forward to a new year with new beginnings. I have so many plans for the New Year. One of them is getting fit. I’m also going to enroll James back into Rugby Tots as he just loves it and spends all week talking about it and then cries when we leave. It’s great exercise for him. He spends most of the time running in circles announcing to me that he’s the winner! (There is no one else competing against in these particular races but hey who am I to burst his winner bubble)

I would like to thank everyone who has supported me this year. To all of you, who read this column and take the time to get in touch. Your kind words and support mean a lot. Finally thanks to my family without whose support and help with James I would not be able to work and build my life again. I had amazing team on my shows this year so thanks to all of you. Hard work and perseverance pays off. Stay healthy, happy and positive and believe in miracles. Miracles are the ordinary things that extraordinary people do for you every day. 2013 here we come!!!

FOR MUM

I love this Juicy Couture Beau watch €249.00 www.arnotts.ie

FOR BABY
Babies love these soft Alphabet Cubes from Mothercare €16.20

This Trike is amazing for kids with special needs. It can be adjusted to grow with your child by raising the seat post and handlebar to suit. The Musketeer comes with a freewheel as standard allowing your child to be able to coast without the pedals going around if you wish to use a parent handle. It is possible too change to a fixed wheel so that when the Trike goes forward or backward the pedals will go around with the Trike. Can be useful for children with lack of power in their legs as the forward motion helps keep their feet going around. Prices depend on adaptations required but start from €295 Age 2-6 yr Available from Adam and Friends

I love this fluffy blue instaria jumper €34 Cath Kidston have a great range of scarves, hats and jumpers that are warm, fun and very festive but also can be worn well into the new year!

 

ASK ALISON

HI Alison,

I was at one of your shows and you were talking about the importance of communicating. I’m quite bad at talking. Have you any tips for helping me express myself better?
Thanks, Lisa. Galway

Hi Lisa,

I’m always saying that words are not the only way to communicate. You can express yourself in so many different creative ways. Arts and crafts are always good. I recently just did a four part parenting series for my website with Joanna Fortune and she discusses some of the techniques she uses. My favourite is “The balloon Technique” which shows you how to express emotion and this could be a great one for you. You write your feelings/problems down. Then you roll the piece of paper up and put it into the balloon. You then release the balloon and let your problems fly off with it. The video on my website will explain this better. I hope it helps!

THIS FORTNIGHT WE ARE:

Doing things to make us feel good READING Caroline Grace Cassidy’s new novel ‘When Love Takes Over’ this Christmas €9.99 This is a feel good, funny, laugh out loud book from all good bookstores LISTENING to Christmas FM we love singing along to all the songs in the car and the best part is the proceeds go to the ISPCC. EXERCISING to balance the guilt of eating and drinking REMEMBERING those loved ones not with us and thinking of all the happy memories we have with them.